Sex sex sex (Not so much drugs and rock and roll)
If you know me, you know I like to be able and try to relate to people, and sometimes to do that you need to do what they do, see what they see, and so on.
When I was younger, I equated relationships with physicality. If you were in a relationship, you were participating in physicality in some way. I had been exposed to sex as a very young child so I never had that blanket of innocence on me as others did. I was never a wild swinger, but I wasn't a saint either. I thought hey, if the only person that I get physical in my life with is my wife, then that means there's nothing wrong getting physical with them. I always loved my girlfriends as much as a wife, and so physicality was a way of being intimate and sharing. I played it risky, I said to myself that sex wasn't sex as long as it didn't involve intercourse. I was curious, I wanted to learn, I didn't want to be laughed at for not being a good lover. I had been reading metro and countless other girls mags, with special regard to the parts that taught you how to be a good partner in bed.
A humbling experience for me was when I ask one of my best friends, who was in his first relationship, about his relationship and how physical they had gotten. He was about 16 at the time. I was dumbfounded when he told me that they had only held hands and it was only once that they had done so. I never knew that couples existed that did not get physical. I couldn't believe it. (However, THAT friend is now into the whole clubbing and picking up random girls scene, however, irrelevant!).
My idea of sex had been cheapened by the world around me. To me holding hands barely meant anything, kissing was normal and should be done within 3 months of a relationship, etc etc. This is what the media teaches us these days. It teaches us that sexual encounters are as normal as eating making a cup of milo. I did not believe that a single relationship existed that did not involve some kind of dodgy physicality.
Actually.. I'm really tired. Lol sorry. I'll finish this post some other time.
However, I do wish to say this. Do I wish I could have sex? Of course! Which normal human wouldn't want to? Do I feel embarassed saying I'm a virgin? Yes (although, only by the hairs of my chinny chin chin). Am I going to be useless on my wedding night? Probably yes although I'd like to thing I'd be a natural and all those girl mags would've helped me. However, do I think that because I'm saving sex for marriage that it's going to be so much more worth it? I'm going to say it, O M G YES!
Monday, May 28, 2007
The Circle of Life (told by a aspiring, inspiring, perspiring Jogger)
Today I learnt what the natural cycle of life is all about when I was jogging up to my local hill (my place is called three kings and I think it's called that because we have 3 hills around us).
However, to cut a long story short, it goes like this:
i) You begin with eagerness with huge ambitions on what you want to do.
ii) You start off well, and make steady progress towards the park and head to the summit.
iii) You begin to struggle halfway up a steep slope.
iv) You tell yourself you can do it, and manage to make another 20 steps before you give up and start walking instead.
v) You reach the summit. Congratulations, you've managed to disturb the privacy of the person who was at the summit earlier. Soon after your arrival, the person starts heading down the hill. It's kinda uncomfortable being the only two people at the summit and not speaking. Somehow the scenery is always enjoyed better off alone or with people you know (unfortunately no one you would want to share the view made it up with you).
vi) You enjoy your victory, having submitted the mountain to your will. You stare out at the scenery (it was about 5.45pm, dusk, it was beautiful).
vii) You spend about 5 minutes at the top, doing whatever you want to do, you're at the top and there's no one else to disturb you! That is, until someone else reaches the summit (with a nice terrier dog btw).
viii) You realise the right thing to do, you humbly get off the summit and start heading down the hill.
xi) You're exhausted, you don't know how much more you can take and start heading home.
vii) You're home (in other words, you're dead).
Wow, Disney should have made a movie about jogging instead of some cub named Simba.
Today I learnt what the natural cycle of life is all about when I was jogging up to my local hill (my place is called three kings and I think it's called that because we have 3 hills around us).
However, to cut a long story short, it goes like this:
i) You begin with eagerness with huge ambitions on what you want to do.
ii) You start off well, and make steady progress towards the park and head to the summit.
iii) You begin to struggle halfway up a steep slope.
iv) You tell yourself you can do it, and manage to make another 20 steps before you give up and start walking instead.
v) You reach the summit. Congratulations, you've managed to disturb the privacy of the person who was at the summit earlier. Soon after your arrival, the person starts heading down the hill. It's kinda uncomfortable being the only two people at the summit and not speaking. Somehow the scenery is always enjoyed better off alone or with people you know (unfortunately no one you would want to share the view made it up with you).
vi) You enjoy your victory, having submitted the mountain to your will. You stare out at the scenery (it was about 5.45pm, dusk, it was beautiful).
vii) You spend about 5 minutes at the top, doing whatever you want to do, you're at the top and there's no one else to disturb you! That is, until someone else reaches the summit (with a nice terrier dog btw).
viii) You realise the right thing to do, you humbly get off the summit and start heading down the hill.
xi) You're exhausted, you don't know how much more you can take and start heading home.
vii) You're home (in other words, you're dead).
Wow, Disney should have made a movie about jogging instead of some cub named Simba.
Just before we get to the gist of things today, I've just noticed that I've had comments for most of my posts, thanks guys, it really does encourage me to post a bit more (I guess that's the attention-seeking Narcissist within me speaking). But really, thanks to those who posted, I always love to hear your perspectives on what goes on in my mind. Please do keep commenting and thanks for all the encouragement! :)
Looking Beyond What's In Front of Us
My dad and I, well, my family and I, are a bit unusual. That's not unusual in itself, I mean every family is unusual in its own ways, and maybe because we're unusual that would make my family pretty usual. Well if you managed to read and understand that, you may feel free to continue on reading this post (Doh! totally not related to what I wanted to say). Anyways my familiy isn't one that seems close to outsiders but I think that the unspoken rule in my family is that if any one of us gets into trouble, for instance if any of us got into a fight, let's just say... the rest of the family would be onto the enemy like donkey kong. I've learned that we don't have perfect families, yet thankfully my family is still together after all of these years and I'm sure somewhere there is implication of the L word (the one that makes the world go around).
So, I think it's kinda rare for me to take something my father told me and ponder on it. But thankfully I did, because it helped me in a way learn another lesson of life. What my father told me is "Son, when your eyes are tired, you must always look far away." Intrigued how this is a life lesson? Read on.
I study law, and as you know, law involves reading pages and pages of neverending cases. Honestly, some cases are like 70 pages long (and these aren't the NIGHTMARES even), and they don't even come with pictures! I also play computer games, A LOT (too much)! What do these two things have in common? They both give you bad vision. Therefore it's not uncommon for me to have really tired and strained eyes. As a result, although my eyesight is normally -0.75 on both sides, during semester it normally goes up to -1.50. This means I can't really read a number plate of a car about 15 metres ahead of me.
I was coming home from an exhausting day of uni, I think it was a 9-6pm day (yeah I know; not all that different from a normal working day). Exam pressures had already begun to affect me and I had been reading cases, my eyes were blurry and tired. While sitting on the bus on the way home, I made a conscious decision to just look out the window and look at things that were far away. Do you know what I mean? Normally we're taught to look at things just in front of us; the letters on a page; the car in front of us; the computer screen, etc etc. Or even on the bus, we look outside just to avoid looking at people on the bus (an article on bus rides will have to wait another day though!), but even then, we tend to blur our vision and let the scenery pass us by. Not today. I suddenly noticed the beautiful Mt Eden, I noticed all the little details that I hadn't noticed before, the Aerial, how I could see tourists on the mountain, details that passed me by everyday whilst I passed by them. I took a look out at the city too, noticed how unique Auckland is because it was a city built on hilly land. I looked out to the tall buildings and saw the people working in them. And then suddenly, things just became clearer. Not mentally, but I mean that I could see clearer. My eyes somehow managed to focus on those distant objects and I could see them clearly. I was amazed, my eyes felt less tired, and when I drew my vision back to things going on in the bus, I noticed that I saw things at close range clearer as well. My whole body and mind also felt strangely refreshed.
After that, a lot of things clicked in my mind:
i) So many of us are tied down by things that are directly in front of us, but we forget to look beyond what's in front of us. We tend to look to things like when the next assignment is due, or when the exams are, or when the next presentation is, what is for dinner, etc. However, we forget to look at things that are at a distance, the things that really matter. Things like what we want our life to mean, or what we want our lives to be like in 5 years time. Because when you look forward, you understand that all these hindrances that are "NOW", are really just molehills in the whole course of our life. Instead, every once in a while, we need to remind ourselves of the real mountains in our lives. How do we do this? We look beyond what's in front of us.
ii) We get so tired from these "NOW" things that constantly drain us. Sometimes, we need to look beyond to see where we want to head. Eg. When searching maps, If I were to look for only the next street I need to get to, instead of figuring out all the streets that will get me to my intended destination, I would be constantly getting lost and constantly researching the map for my next street. Aren't our lives like that? If you are constantly losing value in the things you do, is it because you're only looking at what's in front and not beyond? Try to look out for your destination instead of just where you want to turn next. I'll share another story with you. In days where farmers used to manually plough the ground before planting. The son of a farmer m who was amazed by his dad's ability to plough in straight lines, asked his dad, "Dad, how do you do it so perfectly". The farmer said "Son, when you grab your hoe, you must not look in front of you, instead you have to set your eyes on a spot on the horizon and just keep moving towards that point in the horizon. That's how I do it."
iii) Knowing where we're going sometimes makes it easier to head in that direction. In other words, sometimes we forget why we do the things we do. Often times, we don't feel fulfilled in our lives because it seems meaningless. If we look beyond, and find out what our goals are, such as being successful by the time you're 40, then we find meaning in the things that we do everyday in working towards that goal. For me, this was to be successful in my career, and knowing that I wanted to be successful helped justify all this studying I'm doing (I'm not doing it for fun!).
I guess a summary of all these lessons, although it is a point in itself is that, sometimes we find that we see things in front of us clearer after we spend some time looking beyond them.
Thanks dad, I know you didn't mean to impose such a deep philosophical teaching into my life (or did you?), but thanks. My eyes thank you.
My dad and I, well, my family and I, are a bit unusual. That's not unusual in itself, I mean every family is unusual in its own ways, and maybe because we're unusual that would make my family pretty usual. Well if you managed to read and understand that, you may feel free to continue on reading this post (Doh! totally not related to what I wanted to say). Anyways my familiy isn't one that seems close to outsiders but I think that the unspoken rule in my family is that if any one of us gets into trouble, for instance if any of us got into a fight, let's just say... the rest of the family would be onto the enemy like donkey kong. I've learned that we don't have perfect families, yet thankfully my family is still together after all of these years and I'm sure somewhere there is implication of the L word (the one that makes the world go around).
So, I think it's kinda rare for me to take something my father told me and ponder on it. But thankfully I did, because it helped me in a way learn another lesson of life. What my father told me is "Son, when your eyes are tired, you must always look far away." Intrigued how this is a life lesson? Read on.
I study law, and as you know, law involves reading pages and pages of neverending cases. Honestly, some cases are like 70 pages long (and these aren't the NIGHTMARES even), and they don't even come with pictures! I also play computer games, A LOT (too much)! What do these two things have in common? They both give you bad vision. Therefore it's not uncommon for me to have really tired and strained eyes. As a result, although my eyesight is normally -0.75 on both sides, during semester it normally goes up to -1.50. This means I can't really read a number plate of a car about 15 metres ahead of me.
I was coming home from an exhausting day of uni, I think it was a 9-6pm day (yeah I know; not all that different from a normal working day). Exam pressures had already begun to affect me and I had been reading cases, my eyes were blurry and tired. While sitting on the bus on the way home, I made a conscious decision to just look out the window and look at things that were far away. Do you know what I mean? Normally we're taught to look at things just in front of us; the letters on a page; the car in front of us; the computer screen, etc etc. Or even on the bus, we look outside just to avoid looking at people on the bus (an article on bus rides will have to wait another day though!), but even then, we tend to blur our vision and let the scenery pass us by. Not today. I suddenly noticed the beautiful Mt Eden, I noticed all the little details that I hadn't noticed before, the Aerial, how I could see tourists on the mountain, details that passed me by everyday whilst I passed by them. I took a look out at the city too, noticed how unique Auckland is because it was a city built on hilly land. I looked out to the tall buildings and saw the people working in them. And then suddenly, things just became clearer. Not mentally, but I mean that I could see clearer. My eyes somehow managed to focus on those distant objects and I could see them clearly. I was amazed, my eyes felt less tired, and when I drew my vision back to things going on in the bus, I noticed that I saw things at close range clearer as well. My whole body and mind also felt strangely refreshed.
After that, a lot of things clicked in my mind:
i) So many of us are tied down by things that are directly in front of us, but we forget to look beyond what's in front of us. We tend to look to things like when the next assignment is due, or when the exams are, or when the next presentation is, what is for dinner, etc. However, we forget to look at things that are at a distance, the things that really matter. Things like what we want our life to mean, or what we want our lives to be like in 5 years time. Because when you look forward, you understand that all these hindrances that are "NOW", are really just molehills in the whole course of our life. Instead, every once in a while, we need to remind ourselves of the real mountains in our lives. How do we do this? We look beyond what's in front of us.
ii) We get so tired from these "NOW" things that constantly drain us. Sometimes, we need to look beyond to see where we want to head. Eg. When searching maps, If I were to look for only the next street I need to get to, instead of figuring out all the streets that will get me to my intended destination, I would be constantly getting lost and constantly researching the map for my next street. Aren't our lives like that? If you are constantly losing value in the things you do, is it because you're only looking at what's in front and not beyond? Try to look out for your destination instead of just where you want to turn next. I'll share another story with you. In days where farmers used to manually plough the ground before planting. The son of a farmer m who was amazed by his dad's ability to plough in straight lines, asked his dad, "Dad, how do you do it so perfectly". The farmer said "Son, when you grab your hoe, you must not look in front of you, instead you have to set your eyes on a spot on the horizon and just keep moving towards that point in the horizon. That's how I do it."
iii) Knowing where we're going sometimes makes it easier to head in that direction. In other words, sometimes we forget why we do the things we do. Often times, we don't feel fulfilled in our lives because it seems meaningless. If we look beyond, and find out what our goals are, such as being successful by the time you're 40, then we find meaning in the things that we do everyday in working towards that goal. For me, this was to be successful in my career, and knowing that I wanted to be successful helped justify all this studying I'm doing (I'm not doing it for fun!).
I guess a summary of all these lessons, although it is a point in itself is that, sometimes we find that we see things in front of us clearer after we spend some time looking beyond them.
Thanks dad, I know you didn't mean to impose such a deep philosophical teaching into my life (or did you?), but thanks. My eyes thank you.
Thursday, May 17, 2007
I'm beginnign to realise that we can't have everything. Everything that is worth something demands sacrifice. If you want a good career, you might have to sacrifice your hobbies. If you want to have a good family, you might have to sacrifice your friends. If you want to be good at guitar, you might have to sacrifice your free time. If you want to be smart, you may have to sacrifice your physical health. We simply can't have everything, there are too many limited resources, there is too little time, choices have to be made.
Which leads me to another debate that has been on my mind. Is it better to be mediocre at everything or to excel in just a few things? I know that the choices i proposed above are not ultimatums and we can have all of them on a varying degree. But I do want to succeed at something, and I am confident that I can succeed at anything I put my mind to. But if I don't put my mind to anything, I succeed at absolute nothing even though I might be reasonably good at everything else.
Everyone, including parts of me, would say that having a well-rounded life is probably the better course. But if you consider people who succeed, people who really succeed, I would think that they aren't very well-balanced people at all, either they're slogging off at the office 60-80 hours a week. I'm definately going to try to keep my life balanced, it's just that I might have to re-adjust the balances in my life right now.
It's amazing that it's taken me 22 years to realise that. I guess that goes to show how well my parents have taken care of me. However at the same time, it's the end of innocence, thinking that "everything can be done". I guess this is what it means to think like an adult. Oh darn, now I'm an adult ;) Wonder if my wisdom teeth are coming soon... on the lighter side of things, I know that my past experiences will serve me well whichever path I choose to take.
Which leads me to another debate that has been on my mind. Is it better to be mediocre at everything or to excel in just a few things? I know that the choices i proposed above are not ultimatums and we can have all of them on a varying degree. But I do want to succeed at something, and I am confident that I can succeed at anything I put my mind to. But if I don't put my mind to anything, I succeed at absolute nothing even though I might be reasonably good at everything else.
Everyone, including parts of me, would say that having a well-rounded life is probably the better course. But if you consider people who succeed, people who really succeed, I would think that they aren't very well-balanced people at all, either they're slogging off at the office 60-80 hours a week. I'm definately going to try to keep my life balanced, it's just that I might have to re-adjust the balances in my life right now.
It's amazing that it's taken me 22 years to realise that. I guess that goes to show how well my parents have taken care of me. However at the same time, it's the end of innocence, thinking that "everything can be done". I guess this is what it means to think like an adult. Oh darn, now I'm an adult ;) Wonder if my wisdom teeth are coming soon... on the lighter side of things, I know that my past experiences will serve me well whichever path I choose to take.
Friday, May 11, 2007
This piece is something I wrote 2 years ago in 2007. Sometimes I keep posts as drafts because I don't like to post them up straightaway. Hope you like it.
Old age and death, it comes upon all of us, it's so far proved too formidable an enemy for modern science. Imagine this, you are 75 years old and you have just been diagnosed with a debilitating disease and you get weaker and weaker each day. You will die soon. The doctors have told you that you will no longer be able to walk anyday now. You're still in shock over the news. One night you attend a wedding of a grandchild and you ask your wife, your faithful companion for the past 50 years, for one final dance.
The band starts playing that same waltz,
The one that we've heard a million times before
The one helped me sweep you off your feet
More times than once; but henceforth no longer
Because it is my final promenade with you
Tomorrow the demons that come are cruel
They come to collect from age what's due
To replace my final steps with frail immobility
Tomorrow I dance no longer with you
I chide myself, and move along,
Out of step and beat, my hearing gone,
Pride no longer holds me still, nor people's stares
For it's not a dance with them that I'll forbear
If tonight I don't dance with you
And though it seems more like a hobble than a shuffle
You always danced better than I did
But for now, let me savour these moments
Not the song, or the band,
But I dance to the beat of your heart,
The rhythm of your laugh,
And so, beat by beat,
Cheek to cheek,
This much I'll do
My final dance with you
Old age and death, it comes upon all of us, it's so far proved too formidable an enemy for modern science. Imagine this, you are 75 years old and you have just been diagnosed with a debilitating disease and you get weaker and weaker each day. You will die soon. The doctors have told you that you will no longer be able to walk anyday now. You're still in shock over the news. One night you attend a wedding of a grandchild and you ask your wife, your faithful companion for the past 50 years, for one final dance.
The band starts playing that same waltz,
The one that we've heard a million times before
The one helped me sweep you off your feet
More times than once; but henceforth no longer
Because it is my final promenade with you
Tomorrow the demons that come are cruel
They come to collect from age what's due
To replace my final steps with frail immobility
Tomorrow I dance no longer with you
I chide myself, and move along,
Out of step and beat, my hearing gone,
Pride no longer holds me still, nor people's stares
For it's not a dance with them that I'll forbear
If tonight I don't dance with you
And though it seems more like a hobble than a shuffle
You always danced better than I did
But for now, let me savour these moments
Not the song, or the band,
But I dance to the beat of your heart,
The rhythm of your laugh,
And so, beat by beat,
Cheek to cheek,
This much I'll do
My final dance with you
Sunday, May 06, 2007
Alright if you're a macho macho guy and are afraid of emo posts, steer clear from this entry!
It's been a while since I've done this, and sure it's gonna be sappy, but that's who I am, deep inside, deep deep inside, somewhere in there.. :P
I think that it's important that everyone revisits their thoughts on what love is every once in a while. You realise how your views on what it is changes based on what you've been through and probably your views on what love was when you were a child are totally different from what they are today are totally different.
If anything, it will help you consider how important it is in your life, or whether it should be? Or whether you've arrived at a place where you never thought you'd be, and maybe you should start trying to relive your dreams. Maybe you could write it down and give it your special someone and thank them for being the 'love' of your life.
Anyways, for me, love is:
1) something I have lost many times and been hurt by even more times, it's also something I haven't found yet, but know that one day all my efforts to find the right one will be worth it. I'm not looking for Ms Right Now, wrong recipient, it's Ms Right I'm looking for.
2) being just totally amazed by that person.
3) growing old together with the one that God match made me for.
4) thinking that she is the most beautiful woman in the world, even if she isn't; but to me, she is.
5) me trying my best for her everyday, and her doing the same for me.
6) commitment to stick it out till the end, trust and faith in one another, and always with hope for a better future, together.
7) specific performance of all the terms of the partership, intervivos, made while intoxicated by mutual feelings of affection (lawyer's joke). It's also something that law could never define (thank goodness for that).
8) giving, exploring, sharing sex with just that one person because she's special
9) always having someone to talk with but being just as content in our moments of silence
10) not convenience, not selfish need, not insecurity, not out of ambition, but just because she's the way she is
11) someone who knows my darkest secrets and how childish i can be but will put up with me just because she loves me
12) exploring the world and this adventure we call life in all its entirety with someone just as passionate about it as I am
13) having a happy family, me, you, and oh those incredibly-frustrating-"give me high blood pressure"-insane-"drive me crazy"-"i'm sorry we didn't use contraception"-but-"impossible not to love them" children of ours. Oh, and maybe a dog.
14) coming back home from work everyday, and knowing that I'm appreciated for me, not how much I bring home. and coming back home to the one i love.
Someone who knows the sad reality of this world, but still chooses to face it the best way she knows how; with grace, with strength, humour, intelligence, kindness, charm, and with happiness.
If you ever read this, or if I ever share this with you, thanks for making the future me so happy. I'm so glad the future me has found you, you have no idea how long he's waited for you, you are the result of answered prayer in his life his whole life, what took you so long? :)
It's been a while since I've done this, and sure it's gonna be sappy, but that's who I am, deep inside, deep deep inside, somewhere in there.. :P
I think that it's important that everyone revisits their thoughts on what love is every once in a while. You realise how your views on what it is changes based on what you've been through and probably your views on what love was when you were a child are totally different from what they are today are totally different.
If anything, it will help you consider how important it is in your life, or whether it should be? Or whether you've arrived at a place where you never thought you'd be, and maybe you should start trying to relive your dreams. Maybe you could write it down and give it your special someone and thank them for being the 'love' of your life.
Anyways, for me, love is:
1) something I have lost many times and been hurt by even more times, it's also something I haven't found yet, but know that one day all my efforts to find the right one will be worth it. I'm not looking for Ms Right Now, wrong recipient, it's Ms Right I'm looking for.
2) being just totally amazed by that person.
3) growing old together with the one that God match made me for.
4) thinking that she is the most beautiful woman in the world, even if she isn't; but to me, she is.
5) me trying my best for her everyday, and her doing the same for me.
6) commitment to stick it out till the end, trust and faith in one another, and always with hope for a better future, together.
7) specific performance of all the terms of the partership, intervivos, made while intoxicated by mutual feelings of affection (lawyer's joke). It's also something that law could never define (thank goodness for that).
8) giving, exploring, sharing sex with just that one person because she's special
9) always having someone to talk with but being just as content in our moments of silence
10) not convenience, not selfish need, not insecurity, not out of ambition, but just because she's the way she is
11) someone who knows my darkest secrets and how childish i can be but will put up with me just because she loves me
12) exploring the world and this adventure we call life in all its entirety with someone just as passionate about it as I am
13) having a happy family, me, you, and oh those incredibly-frustrating-"give me high blood pressure"-insane-"drive me crazy"-"i'm sorry we didn't use contraception"-but-"impossible not to love them" children of ours. Oh, and maybe a dog.
14) coming back home from work everyday, and knowing that I'm appreciated for me, not how much I bring home. and coming back home to the one i love.
Someone who knows the sad reality of this world, but still chooses to face it the best way she knows how; with grace, with strength, humour, intelligence, kindness, charm, and with happiness.
If you ever read this, or if I ever share this with you, thanks for making the future me so happy. I'm so glad the future me has found you, you have no idea how long he's waited for you, you are the result of answered prayer in his life his whole life, what took you so long? :)
Thursday, May 03, 2007
Well, this is a post about DoTA. Hehe not suprising since I play DoTA so much. But yeah a lot of people love it (boys), a lot of people hate it (their girlfriends, if they have girlfriends). I personally think it's a great easy fun game to play with your mates and respect to those who have honed their skills to such a level that they make me seem like a wet-behind-the-ears newbie.
BUT this has to be said about the game. Just as in soccer, or rugby, and other sports, it brings out the worst in people. Some people become 'kiasu', some start swearing every other sentence, some people start dissing others just to be cool, some people become easily frustrated. It's not very constructive is it?
I've seen some of my good CHRISTIAN friends turn into people that I would not be too proud of. Well, that might be too harsh, it's just that I think DoTA has made them into worse people than they originally were. Some people think it's just a game you play, but when you play it almost every night, for 3 years, it's impossible to say that it hasn't affected you in some way. But I think the worst thing is the online gaming environment, Battlenet is full of really really lousy people. You want to know what geeks of the lowest low are like, all you have to do is log onto Bnet. So it's understandable that when a person goes into this environment every night, for years, that they can change. It's almost like real life isn't it?
Of course, I'll confess that I probably have also changed by DoTA. I don't know how it has changed me, although I'd love to know how you guys think it has changed me if it has. My aspiration is to change the environment, not be changed by it, and to be a good Christian witness wherever I go.
I love DoTA, it's the new chess. It's a great way for friendships to form. I've made a lot of friends. It's uber fun! I'd recommend it! But please:
i) be aware that although you are amongst real idiots, you don't have to be one. Remember what your center is. If anything, don't be changed, instead change it!
ii) remember, Christians are the salt of the Earth, don't lose your saltiness. :)
BUT this has to be said about the game. Just as in soccer, or rugby, and other sports, it brings out the worst in people. Some people become 'kiasu', some start swearing every other sentence, some people start dissing others just to be cool, some people become easily frustrated. It's not very constructive is it?
I've seen some of my good CHRISTIAN friends turn into people that I would not be too proud of. Well, that might be too harsh, it's just that I think DoTA has made them into worse people than they originally were. Some people think it's just a game you play, but when you play it almost every night, for 3 years, it's impossible to say that it hasn't affected you in some way. But I think the worst thing is the online gaming environment, Battlenet is full of really really lousy people. You want to know what geeks of the lowest low are like, all you have to do is log onto Bnet. So it's understandable that when a person goes into this environment every night, for years, that they can change. It's almost like real life isn't it?
Of course, I'll confess that I probably have also changed by DoTA. I don't know how it has changed me, although I'd love to know how you guys think it has changed me if it has. My aspiration is to change the environment, not be changed by it, and to be a good Christian witness wherever I go.
I love DoTA, it's the new chess. It's a great way for friendships to form. I've made a lot of friends. It's uber fun! I'd recommend it! But please:
i) be aware that although you are amongst real idiots, you don't have to be one. Remember what your center is. If anything, don't be changed, instead change it!
ii) remember, Christians are the salt of the Earth, don't lose your saltiness. :)
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